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In Topic: A Big Thank You

16 April 2009 - 08:54 PM

I forgot to add that many of you mentioned that you were surprised that I wrote the story about the night that Pat passed away.

I have been going to a bereavement support group though Hoag hospital and the grief councelor tells everyone there that they should write their stories. Well, instead of writing in a journal like a normal person, I decided to post it here. It felt good to get it all out. I replay that night over and over again in my head like a film clip and I can never get past the part where he collapsed. The words just spilled out and after I re-read my story, I hardly even remembered what I had written. Now, I can go back and revisit this thread whenever I feel the need for a good cry...I'm told that crying is the only way I'm ever going to get through this.

In Topic: A Big Thank You

16 April 2009 - 08:40 PM

Hi everyone...

I have read all of your replies and have received many pm's since my post yesterday. Your words of love and encouragement are so much appreciated. It's so nice to know that I can just re-appear and nothing has changed...Most of you are the best friends that I have never met.

I just wanted to add some advice for all of you who never think this could happen to you...Well, it can, cause it happened to me and it wasn't supposed to. Pat was 49 years old. We had talked about putting a living trust together but never did. Don't think that just because you are married to someone, that everything automatically becomes yours. I was told by an attorney that I was the poster child for how not to handle your estate affairs. Not only have I lost my husband, but I am also facing the fight of my life trying to get everything in order so Michael and I can stay in our house indefinitely. Things are working out slowly...but, not without major hassles.

The only good thing that has come out of this (if there can possibly be such a word in my vocabulary), is that I have lost over 20 pounds and have dropped 2 sizes. I was told it's called the AG diet, and I don't really recommend it to anyone.

I have learned that it is not easy to raise a child alone. I can't believe that I have been left to keep this little person alive and well and to have to make decisions I never had to make before...such as, what do I do with him during the entire summer while I have to work? The answer right now is day camp at $199.00 a week. We are waiting for final word that Michael will be able to attend a really nice day camp under a scholarship through a couple of our local churches.

Ok. so a major parenting faux pas that happened the other night...Because Direct TV had messed up something on my satellite bill, I asked them to give me some movie channels to make up for their mistake. Well, the other night I told Michael that it was time for bed (he sleeps with me now), so I turned on the tv and was pulling back the covers telling him to climb in, when I heard a really strange sound behind me and Michael's eyes got as big around as pancakes. Yep, it was after 9 pm and Cinemax was playing an adult content film, complete with...well you know...everything...

I grabbed a throw pillow and threw it over Michael's face to block the picture, telling him to keep it there till I could change the channel. Of course, he wanted to know why and what those people were doing...Another time dear...ask me in another 5 years...make that 10! All I can say is that Daddy should be here to help with this one when the time comes.

I think that what hurts the most are all the things that Pat will never get to see him accomplish in life. Since Pat's passing, I have taken Michael to the snow for his first time...A trip to Lego land and a trip to my sister's house up near San Francisco (in a plane, cause Michael wanted to fly). Now, Michael wants to meet Billy from Vexcon who is on the television show "The Exterminatore". Michael has become obsessed and keeps asking me if he'll ever meet Billy who happens to be located in Louisana. Washington DC is also on his list of places to visit.


Love, Dawn

In Topic: Not Sure If This Is A Good Deal On A 2008 31rqs

07 January 2009 - 05:08 PM

Whoo Hoo! :clapping:

I finally get to add..........

Congrats on your new 31rqs!

In Topic: Give Me A Beak

07 January 2009 - 03:26 PM

Congrats on all of your new additions!

Holy moly...and I thought that only rabbits and rats could multiply that quickly :P

In Topic: Haven't Been Around

07 January 2009 - 03:23 PM

Congratulations Tami!

What a beautiful place...I'm sooo happy for you guys!

Got my guest room ready yet???? :whistling: